There is really no way for me to review this book because I think that Christian literature meets you in the place that you're at and the transformation that your heart undergoes is dependent on where your heart is at that starting point. Lately I've been feeling like I have absolutely no worth in the eyes of other people. Underappreciated, misunderstood, not taken seriously, ignored, displaced, just plain not measuring up to people's ideals or my own yardstick, letting down God....the repeating theme here is not being good enough. Things I was sure about I started questioning and the worst part is that I began to think of my own needs and desires as being the furthest thing from anyone's consideration or care and definately something God was ignoring. I had to take a step back from those things so that I could A) build myself back up because I knew darn well that nobody else would help me, B)get some perspective and make some decisions and C)find His voice again so that I could be still and know that He's God. Then I took a direction I feel guilty about and have only took once before. It wasn't an easy thing to do, but a friend of mine that I was talking to about all of this said that although they wouldn't give me advice they would tell me what they were hearing and what they were hearing is that in one case I was putting my hope in others and in the other I would be putting more of it in God. Wanting to focus on God first and then all the relationships, I decided to start with finding things to help me hear Him again. The basic message of this book is that the greatest human tragedy is to give up the search for what our hearts truly desire because it causes us to lose hope. This book is saying that when we bury our desires, we are saying to God that we think He's too hard-hearted to give us our desires even though that's exactly what He's invited us to do. In other words, those who know their desire and refuse to kill it, or refuse to act as though they don't need help, they are the ones who live by faith. Those who do not ask do not trust God enough to desire. I was up almost all night for the past two nights contemplating what my desires are and telling them to God. I want my faith to be worth something. My immediate desire for my relationship with Christ is to hear His voice more clearly and to have the strength to follow Him. I want to give Him control (and that is definately something that I have a hard time handing over). I want to feel the love of my family. Most of the time I feel like they only love me when they need me and that I'm only as good as how much I can give. My desire is to feel about them the way I did ten years ago. It's hard to set up boundaries (let alone a life for yourself)when you have so many that you love with that kind of need of healing. And I'm good at filling those needs and helping them get healed over time with an abundance of love and patience. I desire lasting relationships where the love I show them is reciprocated. Lately it seems like they don't have the time or the desire for me. I want friends that truly love me. Friends that put in the time and effort even when they don't necessarily feel like it. Some know a few little things, but they don't know the big things like why and how I became a Christian or the influence Dalton has had on my life....why I love him so much that I can't just walk away.
THIS WAS A POST SENT TO ME, From Alexandria If youre going to give a book one star, maybe include at least one reason why. Since when are we not allowed to talk about ourself or how things make us feel?
In this chapter, Eldredge explains that in our efforts to secure 'the dream' here on earth, in this lifetime, we tend to make idols of things here which distract us from loving God as we should. Ironically, many of these 'idols' are good things in and of themselves. Don't read this book because you enjoyed Eldredge's bestseller, Wild at Heart - you may be disappointed. I'm glad I read Desire, and have indeed found it useful in reflecting on my own life journey. "There are three things that we must come to terms with in our deep heart. Readers who are able to enter into the central ideas, will appreciate how this second quote encapsulates a major theme:"Life is a desperate quest through dangerous country to a destination that is, beyond our wildest hopes, indescribably good." The book is rich in quotations from classic philosophers and writers such as Pascal, George Eliot, Dan Allender, Larry Crabb and Thomas a Kempis plus favourites such as George MacDonald and CS Lewis.
I was not happy as I read along, but hoped by the end I felt better. I felt that the steps I took to make my dreams happen were contrary to the suggestions the book gave for me. I just felt like my dreams weren't happening and I was not thrilled reading about the search for our dreams and the longing that is unfulfilled.
There were elements of Eldredge's book that I loved.
Despite the vague and lofty descriptions that are found on the back-of-the-book-blurb, I ventured into Eldredge's book about human desire, fulfillment, and Christian life. Eldredge's fearlessness in sharing his own experiences with chasing desire and the torments that often accompany the soul made vulnerable in this pursuit are what make this book of real value.
For believers, that means we need to thirst for and long for life with God that we also need to follow those desires that are given to us - our vocations, our passions, our loves. thats what I need to be reminded of - that the true desires I have (not the wishy-washy desire to eat more Girl Scout cookies or to nap all day) are from God, that they are things laid into my very nature by the Creator, by the one who redeems, not ruins.
Eldredge talked a lot about desire and how God created us with a restless longing for him. The book calls us to refocus, to reprioritize, and to heal our idea of this restless desire God has put within us - to rid ourselves of deadness and addiction and to live "alive and hungry" each day.
John earned his undergraduate degree in Theater at Cal Poly, and directed a theater company in Los Angeles for several years before moving to Colorado with Focus on the Family, where he taught at the Focus on the Family Institute. He worked as a counselor in private practice before launching Ransomed Heart in 2000.